Values of Christ: Number Eight: Co-measurement

This is a very beautiful quality that we can develop in our life. Co-measurement means to be appropriate and fitting to the situation and the needs of the environment in which you find yourself. How many times have we felt really bad for saying something that we did not really mean to say? How many times did we make a gesture that hurt someone deeply? How many times did we do something inappropriate?

When we begin to think about co-measurement, it helps us become more conscious. We do not have to behave automatically but with conscious understanding of what we are doing and what the results of our actions will be.

Learning co-measurement will save us lots of embarrassment and lots of heartache. To learn this requires discipline and thinking and stopping and taking a moment to reflect before acting. Most of all, what this requires is a level of love and non-judgmental attitude toward others. Walk in the other person's shoes; put yourself in the other's life for just one day; think how the other person feels; think what is the most essential that is needed right now.

Being a person of mature co-measurement means to have patience and forgiveness. It means to be not so self-absorbed; life is not all about "me" but about the bigger picture.

What a shocking statement this is for our materialistic and narcissistic popular culture and media!

The values of Christ are not religion or philosophy; they are sane and healthy approaches to living a life of success, good relations, and joyful existence.

We can no longer relegate the Teachings of Great Ones to churches and places of worship. These Teachings belong to our everyday existence and they are paths to a healthy lifestyle regardless of what religion you believe in.

Here then is the 8th excerpt from the Teaching of Christ by Torkom Saraydarian:

The eighth one is very interesting. If you read The New Testament very closely, you will find this rule, this idea, this value. The eighth one is to relate on the level of your audience. Be a child with the children. Be wise with the wise people. Be equal to the grownups, and be like teenagers. Don’t open your sail to the winds of vanities, but speed your path by manifesting the higher values.

Go with their level. When you have children, speak just like children. When you have wise people, speak just like a wise man — so that you do not hurt them, or you do not bore them. Do you see? Keep the appropriate level because the best speech, the best relation is the relation that challenges your friend to improve his life.

You are going to relate in a way that that man understands you, absorbs you, your teaching, your words, your relationships, and changes his life and makes it a better life, improves it. So meet the level. It is so important to meet the level.

To meet the level means to be observant and see where the man is. If that man is on the physical plane, don’t talk about abstract things. Don’t take your “pamphlets” and stand on the street and say you will be saved if you take this and buy it and come our church. No. Just stay with his level, talk with his level, and keep equal with his level.

One day a great disciple, translating this law, this value, said, “With everybody, I became everything to win them.” Do you understand how great this is? “With everybody, I became everything.” But can you be everything with everybody if you are dumb? Of course not! You are going to be super wise, super educated, super intelligent to adapt yourself to all levels, and be effective in all levels. When the children come, you are going to play with them like a child. When there are old people, you are going to act old.

(These excerpts are taken from the unpublished first volume of the Teachings of Christ by Torkom Saraydarian. All rights reserved. The Creative Trust. Used by permission of the copyright holder. For an Ageless Wisdom approach to the life and teachings of Christ and Jesus, please see Christ The Avatar of Sacrificial Love by Torkom Saraydarian.)